Breaking up is hard to do, but what's the best way to get over an ex? A new study says a "rebound relationship" could make things better. Fox 9 relationship expert Adrienne Laursen, LMFT, explains the study and how to get over a breakup.
The study showed that people who stayed single for a shorter amount of time after a breakup recovered faster than those who stayed single for a longer period of time.Those who moved on more quickly reported having a higher level of self-esteem post breakup, as well as higher dating confidence, more desirability, and less focus on their ex.
Grieving the loss of a relationship is crucial
Sure, finding someone new to give you attention and take you out on Saturday nights is both appealing and distracting, but what happens when that relationship ends? And the next one, and the next one after that? You need time to grieve the loss of a significant relationship and it's important to work through those feelings so you can be emotional ready and available for the next one.
Along with experiencing sadness and anger, it's important to also grieve, because you can experience:
-The loss of companionship and someone to spend quality time with
-The loss of financial support, emotional support, parenting support
-The loss of a social status, social circle, family and friends associated with your ex, pets or children you shared together
-The loss of hopes, plan, goals & dreams you designed together as a couple
What do you want next?
Relationship hoppers never have time to be single, to figure out what they really want in life, and love. After a breakup, take time to reflect upon what you want in your next relationship. What kind of partner will you look for? What qualities and interest should they possess? Maybe you'll realize that being single for a while is a priority and the past relationship you just got out of wasn't as great as you thought it was.
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