If you're in a long-term relationship, good communication may not be where it's at! And apparently, neither is sleeping together! Adrienne C. Laursen, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of The Engagement Coach, discusses two recent relationship studies that have unveiled some interesting information about couples in long-term relationships.
Study #1: The Key To Happy Relationships Is Not Just Communication
While good, open communication is essential to a happy relationship, so are other factors.
Researchers tested 2,200 couples and found that while communication is still the number one factor for relationship satisfaction, there are two other key components that sometimes get forgotten about.
Knowledge of your partner
Having a basic knowledge of your partner: Their likes & dislikes, remembering important dates like birthdays & anniversaries, knowing their family member's & friend's names, being invested in their goals & dreams, and asking them for information about their life/memories.
Basic Life skills
Couples were found to be happier when their partner was able to manage basic life skills like holding a job, managing money, helping around the house, etc. Communication just isn't enough when a couple is stressed, and one partner isn't pulling their weight in the "practical life skills" department.
The other factors that didn't make it to the top of the list included: sex or romance, stress management, self-management and conflict resolution.
If you and your partner would like to take the quiz yourselves, visit MyLoveSkills.com.
Study #2: A Sleep Study Reveals That 30-40% of Couples Sleep Apart
Researchers found that couples will say they sleep better with their partner next to them, but this study actually finds that to untrue. Their brain isn't getting into deeper levels of sleep due to continuously being awoken by their partner's movements or sounds.
A lot of couples are now choosing to sleep apart, but that comes with a negative stigma, often called "sleep divorce". If your relationship is otherwise on good terms, and sleeping apart helps you get a good night's sleep, go for it! It turns out you're in better company than you may have suspected.
For more information on Adrienne's counseling services and free relationship tips, please visit her website at www.TheEngagementCoach.com.