Deal-breakers are easy to identify when you're just dating, but what happens when your partner gets lazy in your marriage? Adrienne C. Laursen, LMFT, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and owner of The Engagement Coach, provides some common "passion killers" for both men and women and how to address them with your partner.
Common Passion Killers
(in no particular order)
1. Weight gain, lack of exercise and lack of concern in this area
2. Clothing and fashion choices (granny panties, holy socks, outdated fashion)
3. Bodily noises and habits (burping, farting, nose picking, teeth picking)
4. Personal hygiene issues and cleanliness (hairy armpits & legs, body odor, bad breath, smelly feet)
5. Working too many hours (no time to spend together)
6. Too much time spent online (gaming, Pinterest, Facebook, etc.)
7. Snoring and antisocial bedtime habits (not going to bed together, having to sleep alone, etc.)
8. Bathroom habits and using the bathroom in front of one another (leaving the bathroom dirty, stray nail cuttings, etc.)
9. Talking about your EX
10. Spending too much or too little money
Addressing Concerns With Your Partner
Talking to your partner about these issues can be very difficult. Your partner may become defensive (understandably so) because no one likes to have negative things pointed out to them by someone they love. It's important to handle this conversation with sensitivity, and to share with your partner why these issues bother you and how it might help if they were to change. It's also important to provide positive reinforcement if/when they do make some changes. Realize that change takes time, and you may need to discuss these concerns multiple times before a significant change takes place.
Just remember to approach this discussion the same way you want your partner to address the same concerns with you.
For more information on Adrienne's counseling services and relationship tips, please visit her website at www.TheEngagementCoach.com