The holidays are a great time to spend some time focusing on your relationship. Adrienne C. Laursen, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of The Engagement Coach, shares the best things to say to your partner to boost your communication!
Top 3 Things Your Man Wants To Hear:
1. How was your day?
Simple, right? Not really, and here's why! So many men complain that their partner just isn't interested in their day, what happened at work and problems they've had to address. So ask, and really listen… it will go a long way to letting him know you genuinely care.
2. I really need your help solving a problem or completing a task!
Men are typically very solution-focused and enjoy solving problems… it's what they're good at! So, throw your man a bone every so often and let him really solve something for you. Just don't overwhelm him with too much information, drama and emotions. Remember, this is for him!
3. I want to have sex tonight!
Men often connect with their partner through physical touch, whereas women ten d to be more emotional. So, if you want your man to feel loved and appreciated and more connected to you, this is a surefire way to make that happen.
Top 3 Things Your Lady Wants To Hear:
1. You look beautiful today and I really like your hair!
Women like to feel noticed and acknowledged WITHOUT having to ask for it. Regular compliments really go a long way and let her know that you're taking notice and finding her desirable and attractive. Compliment her hair, her smile, her makeup, her clothes, etc.
2. I'll do the dishes tonight!
If men are motivated my physical touch, women are definitely motivated by action! Because women are typically the managers in relationship, taking something off her plate is about as wonderful as men getting sex! It shows her you care, and notice that she works hard. Plus it gives her some time to spend on something she enjoys.
3. Let's go out on a date!
Suggesting it is great, but make sure you take it a step further and PLAN it! Again, it's about the effort for women, and knowing that you're still thinking about her and wanting to spend quality time with her. So, find the babysitter, make the reservations and just tell her to get ready!
For more information on Adrienne's counseling services and free relationship tips, please visit her website at www.TheEngagementCoach.com