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6 tips for a successful first date

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Dating is like real estate. . . there's more on the market to choose from during the spring and summer months. Adrienne C. Laursen, LMFT, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and owner of The Engagement Coach, shares 6 tips for having a successful first date!

Make the first date brief!

a. so you can get the heck out of there if it's an awful experience, and

b. you can always extend it if you're having fun

Don't reveal your whole life story!

Stay away from topics like your ex, your family issues, your weird/kirky habits, etc. You want to leave some information and stories for the second and third dates, and you want to leave him/her wanting to learn more about you. What you don't want is to leave him/her feeling like you should have booked an appt. with your therapist.

Be positive, fun and upbeat!

Nobody likes a Debbie-Downer, so be positive and upbeat during your first date, and avoid negative topics and whining.

Don't make the whole event about YOU!

It's really important to ask your date questions so you can get to know him/her as much as he/she is getting to know you. You want to avoid dominating the conversation with "me" talk, because in the end, relationships are about "us".

Be kind and gentle, but not needy!

Sometimes, especially on first dates, it's best not to show your whole personality. There is a small element of "fakeness" that is required in order to keep the other person interested. Once that person is invested, it's ok to truly be yourself, bad traits and all.

Avoid alcohol at all costs!

No one wants to take care of a sloppy drunk {ever}, let alone on the first date. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, making you say and do things that might not be so attractive in the long run. Stick to coffee or if you're meeting for a drink, keep it to just one!

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